Hello! I have been on vacation for much of the last two weeks, so that is a partial explanation for my delay in entering any posts here. During our vacation, Beverly and I spent some time on the shore of Delaware with our great friends Bill and Dayna. Bill is a wonderful person except that sometimes (usually) he overserves me wine.
During one of our discussions, Bill told me about the office he shares with 6-7 women. Apparently, they interact a great deal and occasionally that interaction is not conducive to a good environment. So on occasion, Bill has gone into his office, shut the door, then slammed a book down creating a resounding boom. Then he would go back to the common area, empty a big bag of candy or chocolate, and announce, “Candy break!”. Part of their business is education and training, so Bill has used his considerable skill with them to teach cooperation and other characteristics to promote a good work environment, but he admits that he hasn’t had much success.
He has said that when he arises each morning he sets his conscious intent that he will experience joy and success for the day. That is perfect, so I suggested to him that since he cannot change another’s behavior, only his own, that he should add some of the following intentions to his day:
"These women aren’t always bickering."
"Actually, they are good friends and support each other often."
"This really is a wonderful cooperative office where everyone gets along marvelously."
Of course, Bill needs to do this regularly and believe it in spite of what he may see at any moment. If so, I predict that he will see changes in the office and how his people interact. Not immediately, because there has been too much energy going the opposite direction. You can’t get a car to instantly stop on the freeway and turn around at the same speed. But he will notice some change pretty soon and the office will look much different in 60 days. He may be very surprised at some of the changes, too. For example, some may quit saying they just don’t like it there. Actually, what will be happening is that the energy in the office will improve and they are unable or not wanting to cope with the changes. Sadly, calm joy is just very foreign to some people. But don’t worry, because if his intent is a cooperative, efficient office, the perfect new employee will show up at his door.
Plagiarism time! I have often in these posts praised Abraham-Hicks work and stolen their words. I also have a link to their web site below. One of their recent daily inspirations was a perfect fit for Bill’s situation:
You don't have to worry about what their vibration is if your vibration is one of connection. Because if your vibration is one of connection -- you're going to dominate the vibration. This is the way you learn your relationships. The thing that most people do not understand, is that you get to control the way you feel, because you get to choose the thoughts you think. Most people think that they only have the option of responding to the circumstances that surround them. And that's what makes them attempt the impossible, which is to control the circumstances around them, which only feeds their feeling of frustration and vulnerability, because it doesn't take very much life experience to discover you can't control all of those circumstances. But you can control your vibration. And when you control your vibration, you've controlled everything that has anything to do with you.
Excerpted from a workshop in El Paso, TX on Thursday, March 28th, 2002
So, Bill……….. if you read this and if you apply any of these concepts plus related one’s you think of, please let us know how you are getting along. Anyone else as well. It’s easy to leave comments, anonymous or otherwise, to any posts. I would love to hear of others experiences and beliefs because we are all connected. Wonderfully and lovingly so.
The Old Monk